How do i save a dying relationship? I know you have tried making this relationship work. I know
you have compromised a lot just to hold it together. I know it’s been some
months now that everything has changed and you still can’t imagine this
happening: not to you. I know how bad you feel; you wish this would not happen;
you wish it could be as beautiful as it was from the start. I know your friends
think you two are having the best of times; hmm, I wish they knew! It never
started this way: he was everything you ever wished for in a man, yeah I know:
she was the kind of lady mama won’t say no to. Friend, I feel your pain, but I
won’t sympathize with you. I know you have this sinking feeling that your relationship is on the rocks, you've seen the yellow light, red light and all the lights keeps flashing it's over, relax, let's go on a ride on how to save a relationship. Alright, too many times we give up on our relationships when
there are valid options untouched. We quickly assume meeting new people is a
potent way of discarding the old folks. The point is: getting into a new
relationship is a true evidence of you wasting a good part of your life and
months with the wrong person. It's also good you know that it's more difficult to
build a new relationship than saving an existing one if all options are still
valid. Most times in a dying relationship, whoever wants to take-a-bow is the
same person to save the relationship. At the point of displeasure, anger or
regular misunderstanding, there would always be a million-plus-one reason to
leave our partners. But from experience, sensitive decisions should NOT be
taken in such moods: they aren't always the best. I'm aware that you have made
moves to keep that relationship alive yet it looks like you are burning the
oceans. Now, it's time you rest your mind and let’s have a discussion on what
you should be doing.
Lower the Bar
Every man or woman in a relationship sure has a standard
even before getting into it. It could be the nature of his job or what should
be her highest educational certificate or his marital status or even her physical
attributes; height, shape, size etc. Maybe you still don't understand, I’m
actually making references to what you want and who you want as a partner. Despite
that, there are some people we grow in love with; those people we never gave a
chance but sure make a wonderful partner. In all honesty, you can NOT have all
you desire in your partner. If you've heard ladies say - I've got the best man
in the world! Or men say - my wife is awesome! It's not like the man or woman
has no fault, those words are just making imperfect people perfect. You just
can't have all your desires, there will always be a minus somewhere, and if it’s
not a critical part of your relationship: something related to domestic violence
and whatnot, you should lower the bar.
Oh, she snores and every night you're restless. Oh, he comes
home late, READ How to Stop Your Man from Always Coming Home Late, , Oh she doesn't call, whatever the minus of your partner that has
so caught your attention and in-return, influencing your decisions or reaction
toward him/her, it's time you save your dying relationship by managing it or
ignoring it if possible. It doesn't make you a fool; it only activates your
partner’s conscience to a point of unrest.
Expect Less
Nagging is always the end-point of this. She goes to work
just as you do, you came back expecting your food to be hot and ready, but she
just started cooking, young man, expect less! He just got his salary and there
are 1001 home needs demanding attention, young woman, expect less! Get this
clear, any relationship with too many expectations from both partners will get
boring. Maybe, you're in the kitchen doing the cleaning and cooking and you
think he should come over and help with the dishes, but there he is, glued to
his Playstation . . . LOL. It could be tiring but expect less! You wondered what manner of man he is, you screamed; my relationship is dying, at least you've seen how the boyfriends of your friends help out especially at the kitchen. Expect less! In a relationship
where expectations are not met, it could be better communicated but NOT
emphasized upon, hence, it would be seen as a subject to discuss at every time
– now, that’s trouble!
Give Your Partner a Space
Yeah, sometimes we need to allow our partners go clubbing
with friends. You don't have to be around him except he insists. Sometimes,
allow her hang out with her friends too. Seeing you both hanging around each
other all the time sometimes isn't attraction but being clueless of a better
romantic way to get at it. To save a dying relationship, once-a-while, you both
could practice ‘married-but-doing-single’ if you trust each other so well.
Try Something New
Let me be blunt here! A dying relationship sure has a boring
routine. It could be a change of vacation spot, eatery, wears, hair-do, weekend
plans and lots more. These things come with a good measure of freshness. It might
be the same thing you do but a different location, a different way, or you
could make a complete change just to try something entirely different. Be aware
that regular things could be boring and if I know that what I’m going to be seeing
on your hair; as your hair-do, every weekend is the same style, now that's
boredom! Discuss with your spouse/partner, try out varieties; something not
usual and that could be what your relationship needs to survive.
Do Things Together
There are certain things that should NOT be altered and be
observed as regular as possible. Like:
- Dinner together
- Bathing together
- Watching a movie together
- In the kitchen together (remember that's a supposed women's territory, it's romantic to see a man there)
- Go in the same car while she drives, and let her drop you off.
In a relationship, there are some mistakes you can't just explain, read 14 regular mistakes singles make, hence, the relationship begins to lose value. As important as the above-listed are, they could be easily
ignored. No doubt, they are powerful, powerful enough to save any dying
relationship. Please reflect on them, make the right adjustment and watch your
relationship survive. Watch it grow stronger than the first day you-both met. Hence, you
got me to thank later. LOL.
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