3 Easy Ways On How To Deal With A Breakup

I never heard anyone said that break-ups are easy. Every time I hear my friends talk about their break-ups, I always expect wailing, crying, drinking and a lot of sniffs. Yeah, sure, break-up hurts… too much. For people who have not been in love, they might think that it is very easy to move on but here’s the difference: you are in love, they are not. Basically, you are on your own to battle that pain, collect the battered, broken pieces of your heart, form it again into a whole new heart and move on. I make it sound so easy, right? But it is actually not.

How To Deal With A Breakup?

Let’s be honest here, there is no easy way to move on. It requires a tedious process and perhaps a long one too. There’s no easy ways to survive a break up. There's a saying that goes like this, “It took me a day to fall in love, but it will take me long time to say goodbye.” Here’s the deal, it may be a long time to move on but nobody said that it is impossible. Moving on is actually impossible and what you need are these three simple steps that I will discuss in detail.

1. Let it all out Cry.

Shout. Break things. You are hurt and you need to let it out. Some people might say that you should act tough and don’t give your ex the satisfaction to see that you are affected by the break-up. This may be true, but in doing so, you are suppressing your emotions and you are not healing the right way. In order for you to really move on, you must heal and in order for you to heal, you must let all the negative energy and bad vibes away.

You want to feel hurt because you are hurt. No one should take that feeling away from you. You deserve to grieve because you lose something and that’s the relationship that you have taken cared of and nurtured for quite some time. Don’t stop yourself from crying because that is what you feel right now. Let it all out; let your tears wash away all your pain.

JUST REMEMBER: Once you feel tired of crying, it only means one thing… that you are ready to stop hurting yourself and you will have the strength to face the world again. You know that you don’t want to cry anymore. You know that it is time for you to finally let it go.

2. Acceptance

Now that you have already let it all out, you are ready for the next step which is acceptance. In this step, you make ways to accept that you are no longer part of each other’s lives. You already need to start living life independently and away from your ex. If you do groceries together or watch movies every weekends, it is high time to accept that you can no longer do that anymore.

Do not focus your mind on thinking about those past memories. Instead, focus on creating new ones. Now that you are single, you have more time with yourself and use this to reflect on what you want to do. Create new hobbies. Make new friends. Spend a lot of time relating with your family. Re-connect with old pals. Travel and explore. Build and improve your career.

Be more confident and build your self-esteem. Just be happy and make yourself understand that you are done and finish sulking in the corner. You have a new life to live. Along with accepting that you are no longer together, you must also learn to accept a new you that is better and stronger than the old version of you.

3. Move on

After acceptance, it is definitely moving on. You are ready to finally forget all about your past. Forgive your ex if you have to and most importantly, forgive yourself too if there are things that you did which lead to the break-up. What is important right now is that after the painful experience you have learned your lesson. You now know what are those do’s and don’ts in a relationship and you can apply this on your next relationship.

Moving on with a free and light heart will make you happier. Going back to the first step of letting it all out, you can never truly move on if you have not let everything out. Hence, that first step is very vital for you to ensure that this whole “how to deal with a break-up” thing works. No hold backs now. Everything should be put up front because it is where you are heading. Your past relationship will stay at that… past. Focus on your future and you might be surprise that someone else who is definitely better will come along. Just be patient and the right person will be given to you.

Seriously, a break-up is not a journey that everyone is keen to take but everybody has passed through. Hence, knowing how to deal with break-ups is an important tool in a person’s life because real love hurts. It really does. If you are one of those weak hearted person, you might not be able to piece the broken pieces together which will definitely make you suffer more and you don’t want that. Nobody wants that. Even your ex who left you does not want you to suffer but there really are reasons for everything that we must admit and let go.

Really, I cannot replace a love lost through this article, but what I can tell you is that there is this person out there in the world waiting to meet you. In a subway train, in the streets, at parties, or in bars… maybe inside the church itself, that person is just right there. Wait for that person and while waiting make sure that you take care of yourself so that when you meet “the one”, you can proudly smile and say, “I’ve mended my heart so that it can be whole again to give you the love that you deserve.” To receive another interesting article directly to your inbox click here.

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