Why would a guy
and a lady live together when they are not tied by official papers
or religious vows? There are so many reasons and it’s unfortunate
that it has become a norm in the society and also a major reason for several relationship
break-up. We shouldn't be too quick to justify this trend as being in LOVE, since
love itself comes with regrets when certain orders are not observed. Right here, in few
minutes, I'm going to take you through the dangers of cohabitation.
It reduces your self-worth
No matter how
many times your partner says he/she can never be bored of you and probably
want to spend the rest of his/her life with you, such words could be better
experienced in marriage than having a taste before marriage. What you have to
understand is that, most beautiful and well crafted words could be sponsored by
emotions, and emotions do fade away at the face of reality. The reality is
that you both are not married, and if by personal decision
you chose to become his acting-wife, your well-kept value would be
altered and your self-worth would be reduced to that of his kid-sisters or even
a common maid. It's as serious as that!
Being engaged is not being married
Now, this is
one of several sensitive sides of a relationship. He gave you a ring and
all-of-a-sudden you think you are now his wife, no! Lessons of life have taught
us that not all engaged status advances into married. Two love-birds could be
engaged for a year, two, three or even seven years without a plan for marriage
or may not marry after all. How would the young man be motivated to make it
official when you're unofficially leaving with him?
It's a shame to culture and tradition
No matter how
irrelevant we have made culture look like, no matter how our tradition has
rapidly dwindled to give the 'modern-life' a face, it has no doubt upheld our
morals and ethics. In some families, culture is still highly regarded. Culture
and tradition could say: "stay in your home. The man will come there and
ask your parents for permission to have you with him forever". . . and you
say: "the 'old-way' is no life; I'm watching my biological clock".
Care is needful because when the regret comes, you probably going to be
watching your menopause clock as a result of your hastened decision.
It makes you the regular person
It's natural
for two people to get tired of themselves. That's why we spice-up ourrelationships by doing some romantic things. Even if you gets tired of
one-another, why not leave that till after you are married when a little 'fight
and kiss' would spice it up again? No matter how much you'd love to see your partner,
when it becomes regular, then forget the "i miss you" part of your
relationship and it could be boring beyond repair especially if the foundation
of your relationship is built on cohabitation.
It’s unfortunate that the society sees nothing wrong in cohabiting as it has become a common practice all over the world. A large
number of relationships do not survive after cohabitation. It has in no way
serve as a benefit to marriages especially if you are someone that desires a
good wedding and a comfortable home. The major bond cohabitation establishes
between two lovers is mostly sexual and there could be several regrets in the
process – broken promises, unexpected and painful disappointment, since you have given your all to the relationship. There is no win-win situation in
cohabiting the victim has always been the female gender since it’s like the
guy had had it all. The present practice of cohabitation has been abused. Apart from
the fact that it reduces your value, you are practically working in the home as a wife that you are not. Even if you are consoling yourself that you are
engaged, at least you are not married. A weekend over could be a better idea
but not your total submission into the hands of a man that is still free to chose another without any regret Don’t make this mistake in your relationship, you can always make it
healthy and free from troubles. There are some mistakes you won’t be able to
correct, so, be careful and be wise as well.
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