I never heard anyone said that break-ups are easy. Every
time I hear my friends talk about their break-ups, I always expect wailing,
crying, drinking and a lot of sniffs. Yeah, sure, break-up hurts… too much. For
people who have not been in love, they might think that it is very easy to move
on but here’s the difference: you are in love, they are not. Basically, you are
on your own to battle that pain, collect the battered, broken pieces of your
heart, form it again into a whole new heart and move on. I make it sound so
easy, right? But it is actually not.
How To Deal With A Breakup?
Let’s be honest here, there is no easy way to move on. It
requires a tedious process and perhaps a long one too. There’s no easy ways to survive a break up. There's a saying
that goes like this, “It took me a day to fall in love, but it will take me long
time to say goodbye.” Here’s the deal, it may be a long time to move on but
nobody said that it is impossible. Moving on is actually impossible and what
you need are these three simple steps that I will discuss in detail.
1. Let it all out Cry.
Shout. Break things. You are hurt and you need to let it
out. Some people might say that you should act tough and don’t give your ex the
satisfaction to see that you are affected by the break-up. This may be true,
but in doing so, you are suppressing your emotions and you are not healing the
right way. In order for you to really move on, you must heal and in order for
you to heal, you must let all the negative energy and bad vibes away.
You want to feel hurt because you are hurt. No one should
take that feeling away from you. You deserve to grieve because you lose
something and that’s the relationship that you have taken cared of and nurtured
for quite some time. Don’t stop yourself from crying because that is what you
feel right now. Let it all out; let your tears wash away all your pain.
JUST REMEMBER: Once you feel tired of crying, it only means
one thing… that you are ready to stop hurting yourself and you will have the
strength to face the world again. You know that you don’t want to cry anymore.
You know that it is time for you to finally let it go.
2. Acceptance
Now that you have already let it all out, you are ready for
the next step which is acceptance. In this step, you make ways to accept that
you are no longer part of each other’s lives. You already need to start living
life independently and away from your ex. If you do groceries together or watch
movies every weekends, it is high time to accept that you can no longer do that
anymore.
Do not focus your mind on thinking about those past
memories. Instead, focus on creating new ones. Now that you are single, you
have more time with yourself and use this to reflect on what you want to do.
Create new hobbies. Make new friends. Spend a lot of time relating with your family. Re-connect
with old pals. Travel and explore. Build and improve your career.
Be more confident and build your self-esteem. Just be happy
and make yourself understand that you are done and finish sulking in the
corner. You have a new life to live. Along with accepting that you are no
longer together, you must also learn to accept a new you that is better and
stronger than the old version of you.
3. Move on
After acceptance, it is definitely moving on. You are ready
to finally forget all about your past. Forgive your ex if you have to and most
importantly, forgive yourself too if there are things that you did which lead
to the break-up. What is important right now is that after the painful
experience you have learned your lesson. You now know what are those do’s and
don’ts in a relationship and you can apply this on your next relationship.
Moving on with a free and light heart will make you happier.
Going back to the first step of letting it all out, you can never truly move on
if you have not let everything out. Hence, that first step is very vital for
you to ensure that this whole “how to deal with a break-up” thing works. No
hold backs now. Everything should be put up front because it is where you are
heading. Your past relationship will stay at that… past. Focus on your future
and you might be surprise that someone else who is definitely better will come
along. Just be patient and the right person will be given to you.
Seriously, a break-up is not a journey that everyone is keen to take but everybody has passed through. Hence, knowing how to deal with break-ups is an important tool in a person’s life because real love hurts. It really does. If you are one of those weak hearted person, you might not be able to piece the broken pieces together which will definitely make you suffer more and you don’t want that. Nobody wants that. Even your ex who left you does not want you to suffer but there really are reasons for everything that we must admit and let go.
Really, I cannot replace a love lost through this article, but what
I can tell you is that there is this person out there in the world waiting to
meet you. In a subway train, in the streets, at parties, or in bars… maybe
inside the church itself, that person is just right there. Wait for that person
and while waiting make sure that you take care of yourself so that when you
meet “the one”, you can proudly smile and say, “I’ve mended my heart so that it
can be whole again to give you the love that you deserve.” To receive another interesting article directly to your inbox click here.
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