• My daughter, don’t cause a
separation between your man and his siblings; it could be dangerous for you
when they finally speak with one voice.
• My daughter, I know that some of
you girls don’t wish to marry a man whose mother is still alive, don’t ever
think like that, if you do, well, I think your son’s wife-to-be should start
wishing you're dead now.
• My daughter, listen to me, when
I married your father, he was as tiny as his salary but I chose to grow with
him and today, those cars out there are some of the results of what we started
so little, together, and we’re proud looking at them.
• My daughter, there is this
thing i see happening in your time, some of you girls now
get pregnant before the wedding day, well, it never happened in our time because no matter what, we never opened our laps before the wedding.
get pregnant before the wedding day, well, it never happened in our time because no matter what, we never opened our laps before the wedding.
• My daughter, well, yes, I once
locked up the cloth of your father because I got to my limit of patience and
that was the only thing I could do, but one thing I haven’t said was that we
settled the issue that same day and that was the last time I tried that.
• My daughter, look up there.
That’s the wedding picture of your father and I, look at him smiling, I know you've seen it many times but what you did not know is that your father was
angry before taking this picture, I hope you find a man whose anger doesn't last till the next day.
• My daughter, when your Father
was riding a bicycle, I was always happy to hop on it and ride with him, not
because I didn't see those men in their little cars but because my eyes also
saw those men trekking to their farms.
• My daughter, if you and your
husband eat a little food with love, you both would be satisfied. Times are not
always the same; support him in every phase he’s passing through.
• My daughter, don’t ever close your laps to your husband in bed, the day he paid your dowry was the day you lost
your will to do so, don’t be stiff and try to satisfy him even if you were
angry with him.
• My daughter, a man would
respect you and be more proud of you if you’re learned and not totally dependent
on him. Strive to make your own money and while you're at it, be humble.
• My daughter, under the cocoa
tree that I did meet with your Father was open and good enough for our
discussions, yes; it was open and good enough if you understand what I mean.
• My daughter, in our time, we had sexy legs and firm boobs to show our men, in fact, we had the finest ones,
yet, when we dress, we cover those parts of our body, not because we were not
civilized as you people would call it, but because we know that the eyes of men
are hungry, many of them would only come, touch and go their way.
• My daughter, there is this
thing you girls now practice, they say it’s feminism. Well, you can prove
to be equal to a man in the society but please, not in your marriage because at
my old age, I don’t want to start counting your husbands.
• My daughter, marriage is not a
Rehabilitation Centre, if he’s not good enough for you before marriage, nothing
he does would be good enough after marriage.
• My daughter, you can see I still wear my night gown, yes, because to my husband; your father, I still want to
look sexy. So, take good care of your body, look good for your man and don’t
look like a grandma after giving birth.
• My daughter, I’m your mother
and still, I'm not interested in you coming to me always if anything goes wrong
with your husband. Though nowadays I see some mothers controlling the homes of
their sons and daughters, I would only say; shame on them!
• My daughter, for you to have a
peaceful home and well-trained children, have one voice with your husband, join
him to say NO when he’s saying NO before the kids but later when you both are
alone, you can plead with him for a YES, if not, the children will see a
loophole to misbehave, either to you or their father.
• My daughter, if you chose to live together with a man that you’re yet to be married to, and you are complaining
that he hasn't proposed to you, oh, he already did. Whatever he said that made
you start living with him was his proposal.
• My daughter, your generation
does not see any pride in been a virgin before marriage, it’s a shame! Your
father met me a virgin and he brought more yams to my parents and up till
today, he’s still proud of me when we discuss in that direction.
• My daughter, I know that no man
out there is complete, but when you are looking for your tall, slim, fair and
handsome, if he’s a woman-beater, please, go for the short, fat, dark and ugly
that will give you the respect you deserve as a woman.
• My daughter, know, learn and respect the culture and lifestyle of whoever you chose to marry. In some part of Africa,
you knee down to greet your man’s parents while in some part outside Africa;
you can even call them by their first name and ask for a handshake. Whatever
they believe in, if you've chosen him, believe it with him also.
• My daughter, don’t ever try to
date a married man, whether his excuse was that he doesn't find happiness with
his wife or he would have married you if he had met you first, if you ever try
it, I curse you already.
• My daughter, when I say over 52 years of marriage, it wasn't that I did not see any reason to leave your
father, I saw a lot of them but I bear his faults, i forgave him to stay
married.
• My daughter, these are part of
the wisdom i have gathered over the years. and If I had taken my time to tell
you all these, and your marriage doesn't last like that of your father and I, then
I had wished i never gave birth to you.
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