I got this in my inbox few days ago and i think i should share it with my blog readers. Please, insulting her isn't the way-out, hence, let your advice be a solution to this terrific life experience. Thank you readers!
********************** The INBOX *********************
I'm sorry to bother you but this will
be long. This is the past 5 years of my life i'm trying so hard not to
remember. I'm not new to life experiences, i've heard and seen a lot of
relationship troubles. I've counselled many ladies like me but why i fell for
this still remains a misery. Please don't blame me, i'm in pain already. I've
asked myself so many questions i still can't answer, i've tried to forgive and
move on but i couldn't. If for just once, i've decided to listen to my dark
side. Pls, don't bother how suspicious this account may look, it's the same
account i used in finding out the whole truth from the unlucky lady. I met this
guy august 2008 at the wedding of my boss and after about 6 months of trying to
be difficult, i decided to date him. Before then, I've had my share of men's
headache and loving him at first wasn't so easy for me that i'd to ignore him
for that long. heaven knows how much i loved him. It was all over him that he
loved me too, we just couldn't hide it. We both enjoy the moments and i gave my
all to keep us together. I lost my decisions to him, i tried not to wrong him,
he was my total desire for a man, and how would i want to lose him? Our first
year took a lot out of me. I could remember how badly i missed him when his
company sent him to Kenya.
He came back and it was like he never left. That was the night i lost my
virginity to him. He knew i wasn't ready for it and he also supported my
decision but somehow, we couldn't control our affection though i'm not
regreting in any way. I was only overpowered by my emotions, naive and
inexperience. Even in the pain, i felt good because it was him i never knew one
could get pregnant so fast or maybe my timing was wrong. Few weeks later, the
signs were obvious to me. I told him but to my surprise, his mood changed, he
couldn't continue with his meal before he started making me see reasons why
keeping the baby would affect our plans. One of the reasons was how
irresponsible his father would think he is and could stop his plan of going to the
U.K for his masters. I couldn't say no since i've always wanted the best for
him. He gave me 20k which i refused. In one of the sad moment of my life, i
called a friend and told her, she contacted someone to help us and finally we
got a doctor somewhere in (location withheld) to do the abortion. I did it but
for a week, i couldn't go to work. I wasn't alright until after a month. I
almost lost my job, i couldn't explain what went wrong but the good part is
that i was fine again. We were doing well all along despite the distance. In
2010 he came back shortly from the U.K and since i was holding on for that
long, i've missed him so much. That night saying no to him was not in my head
and we had it and many times. It was the best ever and we were cool. He was
about going back when i discovered i wasn't myself. I had to call my doctor,
made an appointed and i got to know i was pregnant again. It was a mixed
feeling but i called him up immediately and told him. He sounded ok before
letting me know that we're not ready for it. Truly, i wasn't ready due to
official reasons at work. I thought about it and had to flush it. After his
masters, he came to nigeria,
introduced me to his parents and we got along so well. Though he said he wasn't
going to work for his former company, he went on to set up his. Everything was
cool until i started noticing certain changes in him. He wouldn't pick me from
the office as usual, he was more busy that we hadly have time to talk. I
thought i was asking too much so i didn't complain. I was with him on a weekend
when his phone rang, he was in the bathroom then. I picked the phone to give
him since i don't pick his calls. The caller id was kinda strange, like a
combination of some letters. He spoke with the person, my instinct told me it
was a lady and when he gave me the phone back, i searched his phone for any sms
from that number. I was able to get an email which i put through facebook and
that confirmed my doubts. The bastard was engaged to another lady. He was smart
not have accepted so as not to be visible on his profile. I was lost, i wanted
to die right there. I quickly opened another account and i made friend with the
lady. We were so close and we talked more, within 3weeks we were like best of
friends. I asked about my man and she opened up so much that my body became
weak. I got to know they would be getting married from her. I never asked for a
life like this. Why are men so evil? To make it worse, i was pregnant for him
again. I couldn't hold it, i confronted him, my chris was right before me
looking like an idiot. I only wish i had a gun, it would have ended right
there. I knew there wasn't hope of a father for the baby, i never wanted to be
single mom so i ran to his parents but his mother’s reception was so cold that
i suspected something was wrong. I went back home. I cried my eyes out, nothing
could be more painful in the world than my feelings. I told myself i was going
to face it, i left my parents out of this mess. I badge into his house the next
morning around 7am, told him i was carrying his child and that i was going to
abort it. He was just looking at me and later starting apologizing. I was so
mad that i had to throw his home stool at him, he was so quick to dodge it. I
wish i had killed him. I went back to his mother and she shouted at me, she
said her son will never marry me. My head flew off but i never talked back, i
was calm to ask her reason. I got to realise that he had told his mother about
the abortions and how it was only me that took the decision. In my life i have
never been this terrible knowing how well he convinced his mom to hating me.
Now i have aborted the thing, it doesn't make any sense keeping it. I'm only
asking you for advice if there is a better way to end this because i already
have his wedding date later this month and sincerely i had contracted his
death. Please keep this to yourself as i'm only seeking a better ending but not
pleading for his death. I know i look so wasted and useless right now but he’s
never going to enjoy any moment of his life, that i promise.
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There's no way i would have kept
this barbaric life experience and at the same time allow someone's death. I saw urgency in her story; i saw a lady who could take any decision regardless of the damage. I've spoken with her on phone and she seem alright. I made her realize how there's no
better ending that she seeks in the death of the young man. What i don't know is if she
has truly changed her mind. I still don't have any details but this might be a
warning to someone out there that's why i couldn't hide the name. I usually don't do this! It's without
permission, at least, not when a life is at stake. Please advice her and that
could save a life! I will make sure i refer her to this post to read your comments.
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