What's the best way to revenge on a cheating husband and his mistress

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This story was shared anonymously but I find it really effective if the said mistress happens to be in a profession that accommodate this form of reaction. 

The story goes...

My husband’s bit on the side was a therapist. I booked an appointment with her under my maiden name.

I told her briefly about my concerns for my marriage and the impact on my children. She expressed empathy and saiwasd she could definately help me. I then calmly revealed who I was. She then spent a very uncomfortable 45 minute squirming around. She couldn’t eject me from the room without her colleagues finding out what she had been up to and knew that I would be leaving though the reception area.

It was therefore essential to her professional reputation that she engratiated herself with me as much as possible in the time available.

I have never seen anyone face the consequences of their behaviour quite so forcefully. I barely said another word. I didn’t have to.

And my husband? I told him that I’d been to see the woman and that we had spent an hour talking about their affair, but I did not share a single detail with him.

For a man used to having all the information and leaving me in the dark, this was very hard, he was extremely angry and very distressed at losing control of the story.

I divorced my husband and he is now in a long term relationship with this woman.

I am very glad to be single and also grateful that I had the opportunity to put myself in a position of power and confront them head on with their behaviour without so much as raising my voice or being vengeful in a way that would reflect badly on me. It has helped me to find resolution.

33 Quotes, Late Night SMS and Text Messages for a Husband that Comes Home Late

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Is your husband or boyfriend now staying out late and you're at a cross road. A part of you want to scream, yell at him and the other would like to encourage him and deal with it if that will change his mind from coming home late. 

In my No. 1 Ranked Content on Google, How to Stop Your Man From Coming Home Late, i already shared practical ways on how to help your husband come home early. Also 25 Ways to Make Your Husband Rushing Home From Work is highly recommended for women that want to stop their husband from staying out late.

It's disturbing to stay up waiting for a man that won't come home, either by habitual reason or sudden personal decision. Whatever the reason, one or two of these quotes and text messages would help connect with his soul, emotions and possibly bring him home early henceforth. At least for your own peace and sanity in the home. I think i should apologize on his behalf for taking you through the stress.

Quotes, Text Messages and Counseling: Coming home late sms or test messages to send your husband or boyfriend if he stays out late

SMS for late home coming husband IF YOU'VE KID(S) TOGETHER

1. I keep lying to the kids every night, they never see you before bed time, if not for my sake, can i have you home early for the sanity of our kids?

2. If your decision to come home late is killing me on the inside, think of what would be happening to the kids right now

3. I thought about how we started, i thought about the beautiful promises you made, i thought about how you were a loving husband and father to our kids but now they go to bed without a hug from you

4. Myself and the kids are on protest tonight, either you come home to us or we come over there to you, reply with a choice

5. Someday i hope for a normal relationship where you would be here to babysit our child with me

6. I'm with your child and you staying out late is the worst encouragement you can give me right now, please come home

7. It's past 12am, i'd wished you'd stayed with us in this cold night than chose to be with your friends and leaving us alone

8. Each time i hear our baby cry, i'd think there's something i could do differently to make you come home early, if any please tell me coz i can't do this all by myself

9. Can you take a minute and think about Jason (insert kid name) and how much he means to you coz his eyes are still wide open hoping to see daddy tonight

10. I thought about where i got it wrong to have made you start staying out late and if really our kids are indeed a blessing to us. If not for anything, think about them

SMS for late home coming spouse IF HE'S A CLUB/BAR FREAK OR GETS DRUNK

11. Today I looked back in time and i told myself i was never wrong accepting to marry you, i can still see in you the sweet and loving husband i said yes to years ago but he's in the club/bar without me

12. Please look around and see the adorable and lovely woman you proposed to is not in that club with you, she's alone and lonely on this bed made for you two

13. Someday i hope you find a woman that would stay up late while you drink yourself away every night, i can't keep up anymore pls come home

IF YOU KNOW HE'S WITH A MISTRESS/OTHER WOMAN

14. I've stayed with you for 10 years and she barely knows you, would you want to waste 10 years of our lives for a woman you barely know

15. She can be giving you the HOT sex because she's desperate to have you, i give you good sex because i already have you and would like to keep you from getting burnt from HOT sex

16. Honey, whatsoever she's doing differently that makes you stay out late, come home and lets talk about it tonight

17. I know this have gone really bad between us but i'm still the listening woman you married, don't talk to a stranger, i'm home waiting for you to talk to me

18. She may say she loves you but she barely knows you, our love have stand the test of time and that she hasn't gone through, please i need you home it's dangerous out there

19. I'm here, alone on our bed, staring at our wedding portrait, imagining how we loved each other so much to be this happy. You're there, together with her on the bed. I wish i can tell her you're married maybe she would send you to me tonight

20. Would you like another man to touch your woman like you're touching another woman right now

21. She's paid to make men happy, i'm owed for keeping your ass and kids together in this house. Will you come home and lets do more than she does to keep you screaming your brain off

22. How do you want me to explain to our kids that their father is in bed with another woman right now

23. I love you more than she does, if you think i'm just being jealous think about how long you've known her and the years we've been together. One have stood the test of love and survived, come home to me

GENERAL ISSUES FOR STAYING OUT LATE

24. If you can take a moment to think about all you did to have me as your wife/girlfriend and i'm still yours, you'd find a way not to hurt me by coming home late

25. I've always cared for you, this new path is ripping us apart and we're getting farther from each other every single day, would you like to take a moment and let's talk about where we got it wrong

26. I've heard people say you don't value what you have until you lose it. I wouldn't want you to lose me before you see all the effort i made to make this marriage/relationship work, i don't want to lose you too, please come home

27. The women you married in that past may have giving up on this same habit, i chose to stay because i know in you is a caring and loving man that knows i weep to bed every night not having you by my side

28. What makes you think i would sleep on this large bed all by myself, my eyes are open waiting to see you walk through the doors

29. You've been coming home late and i've been thinking how we got it this bad, the only thing i could figure out are two people that are scared to confront their situation. We need to talk about this tonight

30. Every night i wet my pillow with tears, each drop comes with pain of your sudden decision to come home late, you're my husband and i wish to have you right here beside me

31. You cause me so much pain each night, this you're doing is breaking me on the inside coz we didn't agree to have a home while you stay out there

32. You may not worry about how i feel going to bed every night without seeing you but i'm always worried about how safe you're out there in the dark

33. Looking through the window this dark hour, staring at nothing, wishing you could walk straight through that doors into my arms. Come home baby, i miss you. To receive another interesting write-up directly in your inbox click here.

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7 Easy Ways To Catch A Cheating Husband or Boyfriend

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In my last article on what to do when your husband is having an affair, i made some clear cut points that triggered some feedback and that powered this topic. I noticed that most women are not always sure when their husband is cheating since he has smartly covered his tracks and balanced the home front. Some women are really careful of accusing their spouse of cheating because they really don't know if they are right or wrong and also the danger in accusing your husband of cheating when he is not can be disturbing, hence, they remain in doubts even when something on the inside says he is cheating. Yeah, it can be that complex. You just can't rely on inner talks or feelings about your cheating husband and you can't act or accuse him base on assumptions too. Whichever, you need to catch him cheating on you to confirm your doubts but how would you do that?

Warning: Some action points could be more aggressive than others, it's advisable you use each point according to the degree of your marital trouble.

How To Catch a Cheating Husband, any of these would work.

Action Point No. 1 - Pretend All is Alright - Don't be reactive! Most women do chose to go hyper. No! Be smart and pay attention to details surrounding him. Know that you can't keep watching him all day as that alone is enough stress. There are some thing he would start doing. Don't question his sudden decisions to come home late or travel or hang around friends. Don’t worry about the calls he’s not picking in your presence or refuses to pick. Don’t worry about his change of wardrobe or interest in a new clothing collections. Allow a bird to fly! And while he keeps thinking you're so dumb and even not aware of his cheating moves, he will be creating more space to fall in your net. The more you act like you don't know, the more he would think he has got the space to cheat and in so little time, it will be very open.

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Action Point No. 2 - Confide in Someone - Nowadays, i see women hiring detective to give a close watch on their husbands. I think it's not right and more damaging. I would advise you find someone you have known all along or have a good relationship with overtime to help you on this. The person could be his colleague at the office, your sister or brother, family friend, anyone but not a stranger. And don't go about telling every member of your family as that could mean opening up your relationship in a shameful way. Remember, the essence of catching him is not to destroy your relationship so you have to apply max caution and wisdom. If he was seen in an hotel with another woman; his mistress maybe, you can prove your case and still keep your home if it was your sister or relative that saw that more than a detective. No matter the level of damage of your relationship, hiring a spy is more damaging. It destroys it without hope, ask Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt.

READ: How to Save a Dying Relationship

Action Point No. 3 - Set Him up - This actually is the easiest. I was chatting with a client last week and she told me her husband was hitting on her sister and she had left the house since she doesn't want to break her sister's marriage. That really must be an extreme measure for any man to satisfy his high libido but it happens everywhere. So i told her, call your sister back in the house, ask her to accept the proposal from her cheating husband. She thought i was crazy. Really it may sound crazy but that's a better close catch. Her sister would act like it's normal to date her sister's husband and that she's not aware of what's going on. She would agree to go on a date with him then in one of the dates, the idea of meeting in a private place would definitely come up and that's all. He just got caught! 

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Another way, that lady may not be your sister but just some raunchy girl out there. Make the terms really clear from the start as she could be hurt if she goes beyond your instructions. Let their path cross, a little stepping on his toes or hitting on him in a club or his regular spot could start a conversation. A selfie of their first kiss could be enough evidence of cheating on you. 

NOTE: Don't do this if you're NOTE SURE your husband is cheating on you. But if he's a serial cheat and you want to nail him once and for all, go ahead.

READ: How to Manage Domestic Violence in a Relationship

Action Point No. 4 - Install a Call Recorder on His Phone - Some men have this application already installed on their phone, you just can simply go ahead and listen to the recordings. But if it's not installed, be careful of those apps that ask for permission before recording. Don't leave this on his phone for too long. It could be installed before a weekend he won't be spending with you, or before a meeting that you suspect. I know there are so many mobile spy software out there, i would advise you stay clear if you don't know the use. This is a little tech and if you're not tech-oriented, just leave out this option.  

Action Point No. 5 - Micro Keylogger: I was told this software helps in storing or hacking passwords. Well, just in case he changes his login details and doesn't want to share it with you anymore, get an expert to install this carefully on his laptop and you sure can read his messages. Trust me, in a sane marriage, there should be no secrets. No password hiding!

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Action Point No. 6 - Leave for a vacation (the truth is, you’re not on vacation, you're somewhere close). Cheating husbands usually do the unusual acts when the wife is away. So before leaving, make sure you plant a recording device somewhere strategic in the house, like the bedroom and living room. By common sense, a cheating husband would take his mistress out for dinner because they are careful of rumors from the neighborhood while some would bring her home since you're supposedly on vacation. Whichever, a surprise visit could get him busted.

Action Point No. 7 - Create a Fake Social Profile: Now this is interesting! I once counseled a client to do this and it worked perfectly. In fact it corrected the marriage and gave it a fresh start with new goals. Here's how she did it:

* She identified the social platform her husband was so addicted to

* She created a fake profile with a random sexy picture of a lady and made friend with him

* Time after time her husband unknowingly was chatting with his own wife on the internet without giving her attention at home. 

* They were so connected and were like lovebirds on the internet not knowing it was his wife.

* As men would be men, he asked for nude pictures which she sent to him without showing her face, just those parts. Of course the high hormone won't make even a sane man differentiate that part. 

* All the while, the attention she was lacking at home, she was getting it on the internet from her husband.

* Time to meet was so embarrassing but emotional as they agreed to meet in an hotel.

* Her husband already booked a room and was waiting for this new catch and here comes in...his very own wife.

It is embarrassing to discuss what happened afterward but that was the marriage correction.

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Initially, the man's excuse for cheating was that she was irritating. So this lady adjusted everything possible and impossible to satisfy him yet it never worked out. She told me she kept asking him; "what else do you want from me...so i was not irritating you all the while if you can show me so much love and give me so much attention on the internet." It was quite an emotional moment but i'm glad it worked.

In Conclusion: I once did a survey, gathered from clients and open sources. I realized that 69% of men have once engaged in physical cheating. Though everyone cheats, either by admiring a man's body because he looks like Dwayne Johnson or his sexy blue eyes like Paul walker (RIP man) or taking a second look at her booty like Kim Kardashian or boobs like Micki Minaj, everyone is a cheat. But physical cheating is different, that's going extra steps to make it real. In this context, since not every man engages in physical cheating, don't always suspect the late coming or staying out late of your husband as one. But whenever you found out that he's really cheating on you, use any of these 7 action points to find him out. Don't forget, use any of these according to the level of aggression your marriage is facing. 

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How To Cope With Divorce The Positive Way

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Here is How To Cope With Divorce The Positive Way

A break-up from a relationship can hurt and break your heart into pieces. Many people have a hard time coping up with a simple break up but what if you are breaking up not only with your boyfriend/girlfriend? 

What if you already have that piece of paper signed, that ring on your finger and that promised to be with each other through thick and thin?

Can you still cope up with the heartache when you are ending a relationship that is already bound in marriage?

How To Survive A Divorce?

Divorce is common. However, no matter how common it is, a couple undergoing a divorce process is still under mental and emotional stress especially if you have invested a lot of feelings in your relationship. It may be hard how to survive divorce yet it is still doable.

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Most people may feel bad about the divorce procedures but knowing how to survive a divorce will help you deal with it well. Proper handling of a divorce may even make you improve yourself into a stronger and happier person because you will be able to learn from the mistakes of your failed relationship when you are in search for a new one.

It is okay to grieve. Know that grieving is important. When you lose something or someone, grieving is just a normal process and it is important that you allow yourself a proper grieving period to ensure that you will be able to move on.

Be open about what you are feeling. Most often, you try to hide your tears and pain because it is either you are too embarrass to let other people see you or you are too angry with yourself or your partner for a failed relationship. But you should take note that it is important to have those feelings and more important to be open and share whatever it is that is inside of you. You do not want to explode because of those unexpressed emotions, do you?

Have a great support network. Even if you feel alone because you no longer have a partner to share the challenge with, always remember that you are not alone. You still have your family and friends who are willing to help and be there for you. You may feel awkward with their company but they will be a big help for you to handle the situation fine.

Give attention to yourself. When in a relationship, it is possible that you have limited time to spend with yourself because you always give time to your partner. This is the high time now for you to enjoy something for yourself. Reflect about yourself. Are you still happy? Are you improving? Are you still willing to be in a new relationship?

Take care of yourself physically, emotionally and mentally. Divorce can cause you too much stress that it might hamper your health. When you want to cope up with a divorce, it is best if you are fit to handle the situation when you are in a healthy state of mind, controlled emotions and physically capable.

Be positive always. Negativity never helps. Once you have a positive outlook towards the situation and in your life, you will be able to know that everything will still be okay and go back to normal after all the pains and hurts. Having a positive mind will make you realize and feel that there is more to life than this challenge and it will push you to move on towards the future.

Know that you still have a future to live for. A failed relationship in the past doesn’t mean that you will also have a failed relationship in the future. Though you may think that you can’t handle a relationship well because you already failed once, you just have to learn from the mistakes of the past to make your future better. Stand up from that failure and I know that you will be better in the process.

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Surviving a divorce is not only inclusive between you and your partner. It also involves the children if your marriage resulted to any. You should put into consideration the feelings of your children because parents divorcing may impact them and their future mentality about marriage as well. Hence, it is very important to explain everything to your kids to ensure that they understand the situation and their relationships in the future will not be affected.

To help your children cope up with the situation, it is best that you and your ex-partner will be there for them and talk it through with them.

Do not bad-mouth your ex-partner in front of the children. Bad-mouthing will decrease their respect towards both parents. They may develop hostility towards the other party while they can develop aloofness towards you. Always remember that whatever the conflict between spouses, the children is out of it.

Listen to your kids’ feelings and be there for them. Your kids have feelings of their own too and they need both parents to help them handle the negativities of the situation. Ensure them that despite the separation both of you are still there for them and that nothing will еvеr сhаngе thе fact thаt уоu аrе ѕtіll thеіr раrеntѕ. Sоmеtіmеѕ, kids may think that they are the reason of the divorce and they feel bad about it. Tell them that they are not in any way involved in the decision and that it is not their fault. 

Explain the pros and cons of the situation and make them understand that separation is better than still being together.

Continue children’s daily activities. You want your children to live their lives as normal as possible so doing daily routines that they are familiar with can really help a lot. Since they are also experiencing stress and emotional instability, doing things that they find normal such as going to school and bonding over good friends will help them deal with the whole process. To receive another interesting article directly in your inbox click here. 

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How Do I Save My Marriage: Easy Ways to Revive Your Marriage

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Wondering how to save a marriage? In thе past a mаrrіаgе was to lаѕt untіl dеаth ѕераrаtеd thоѕе whо hаd bееn jоіnеd in thе hоlу rіtuаl оf matrimony. Mаrrіаgе uѕеd tо асtuаllу hаvе a mеаnіng bеуоnd thе dеѕіrе оf spending ѕоmе tіmе wіth a реrѕоn аnd people grеw оld tоgеthеr…fоr bеttеr оr fоr wоrѕе. Thе how do i save my marriage question dіd nоt еxіѕt; nо оnе wеnt аrоund аѕkіng hоw tо save уоur marriage оr hоw tо mаkе уоur ѕроuѕе fаll bасk in lоvе wіth уоu. Infact, was Google really around to provide answers to such questions? 

It’ѕ ѕаd whеn реорlе have tо wоndеr, “Cаn my mаrrіаgе bе ѕаvеd?” Unfоrtunаtеlу, tоо mаnу оf these реорlе got married bесаuѕе thеу were іn luѕt. Many saw these signs before marriage but they felt it was just a phase that would pass. Some wеrеn’t rеаllу іn lоvе, and оnсе thеу’rе married thеу оftеn ѕtаrt wоndеrіng іf thеу еvеr еvеn lіkеd thеіr ѕроuѕе. Some really do want to save their marriage from divorce because they felt it could really work out again while some would simply just give up on the relationship. Well, thе rеѕult іѕ a рlеthоrа оf very trоublеd mаrrіаgеѕ whісh hаvе сrеаtеd a vеrу luсrаtіvе buѕіnеѕѕ fоr thе thеrаріѕtѕ, рѕусhоlоgіѕtѕ, аnd соunѕеlоrѕ whо ѕресіаlіzе іn trуіng to ѕаvе mаrrіаgеѕ. Thеѕе rеlаtіоnѕhір рrоfеѕѕіоnаlѕ wіll tеll соuрlеѕ a rеѕоundіng YES whеn аѕkеd іf thеіr mаrrіаgе саn bе ѕаvеd.

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Cаn thіѕ mаrrіаgе bе saved? Yеѕ, Wоrk іt оut! Dоn’t gіvе uр аt thе fіrѕt bаd ѕіtuаtіоn, аt thе fіrѕt ѕіgn of іnсоmраtіbіlіtу. Onе оf thе еаѕіеѕt thіngѕ tо dо tо ѕаvе уоur marriage is tо simply wаlk аwау, tаkе a bіg brеаth аnd trу tо аррrоасh еvеrу ѕіtuаtіоn wіth a clear реrѕресtіvе. 

Calm dоwn, mаrrіаgе іѕ a twо wау ѕtrееt аnd ѕоmе соmрrоmіѕеѕ muѕt be mаdе іf уоu wаnt іt tо wоrk оut. Nо оnе саn hаvе еvеrуthіng thеу wаnt, rеmеmbеr thаt bоth оf you аrе wоrth thе same.

Mаrrіаgе соunѕеlіng buѕіnеѕѕ hаѕ еmеrgеd аѕ hugely рrоfіtаblе еntеrрrіѕе. Thеrе еxіѕtѕ whоlе ѕоrt оf mаrrіаgе соnѕultаntѕ, thеrаріѕtѕ, ѕuрроrt fоrumѕ tо рrоvіdе соunѕеlіng ѕеrvісеѕ tо nеwlу wеd соuрlеѕ tо ѕоlvе thеіr рrоblеmѕ аnd dіffеrеnсеѕ. Thеѕе рrоfеѕѕіоnаlѕ аrе thе реорlе whо саn hеlр соuрlеѕ rеѕtаrt a ѕtаblе, соореrаtіvе rеlаtіоnѕhір аnd hеlр thеm save thеіr mаrrіеd lіfе.

Sаvіng a mаrrіаgе іѕ bеnеfісіаl tо ѕосіеtу. Kееріng a mаrrіаgе together can еnѕurе thаt сhіldrеn are not trаumаtіzеd bу thе ѕераrаtіоn оr lеd іntо ѕіtuаtіоnѕ that rеԛuіrе dіffісult аnd painful dесіѕіоnѕ. Thіѕ рrеvеntѕ forcing a child nоt уеt rеаdу tо hаndlе thіѕ drаmа tо сhооѕе bеtwееn раrеntѕ аnd thеіr rеѕоurсеѕ іn еvеnt оf a dіvоrсе. Kіdѕ frоm brоkеn fаmіlіеѕ are mоrе lіkеlу tо bесоmе ѕіnglе раrеntѕ thеmѕеlvеѕ, mіmісkіng thе lіfеѕtуlе set forth by hіѕ оwn раrеntѕ.

Mаrrіаgе nееdѕ tо bе ѕееn аѕ whаt іt uѕеd tо bе, a ѕасrеd unіоn bеtwееn twо people who hаvе bоwеd tо ѕhаrе thеіr lіvеѕ thrоugh thе gооd tіmеѕ аnd thе bаd tіmеѕ. Mаrrіаgе іѕ nоt a gаmе оnе саn ԛuіt whеn gеtѕ bored…or іt ѕhоuldn’t bе аnуwау. Cаn thіѕ mаrrіаgе bе ѕаvеd? It саn bе, mаkе ѕurе уоu аrе аwаrе оf thе соmmіtmеnt уоur undеrtаkіng аnd hаvіng the self ѕtеm аnd соnfіdеnсе tо mаkе it work.

Sееmѕ like thоѕе dауѕ аrе оvеr, mаrrіаgеѕ lаѕt lеѕѕ аnd lеѕѕ еvеrуdау аnd people оftеn fіnd thеmѕеlvеѕ аѕkіng hоw to save mу mаrrіаgе? Onе wау tо ѕаlvаgе a mаrrіаgе іѕ tо wоrk іt оut. Mаrrіаgе соunѕеlіng has even bесоmе a vеrу luсrаtіvе buѕіnеѕѕ. Mаrrіаgе соunѕеlоrѕ knоw hоw tо ѕаvе mаrrіаgе аnd help mаrrіеd соuрlеѕ wоrk thrоugh thеіr problems аnd dіffеrеnсеѕ. Evеn thоugh thеу mау ѕееm еxреnѕіvе, thеу аrе wеll worth іt іf thеу саn hеlр ѕаvе уоur mаrrіаgе. Thе vаluе оf реrѕоnаl ѕеrvісеѕ thаt саn hеlр rеѕtоrе ѕtаbіlіtу аnd brіng undеrѕtаndіng іntо аn otherwise dооmеd mаrrіаgе іѕ рrісеlеѕѕ. To receive another interesting article directly to your inbox click here. 

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How To Get Out and Get Over An Abusive Relationship

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A relationship is not at all happy and smooth. Most often than not, there are relationships that are quite difficult and abusive. You may be the one experiencing it or your family or friends, but whoever is experiencing an abusive relationship requires a great amount of support and help to handle it without damages. Hence, i took my time to discuss on how to get over an abusive relationship.

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For anyone who have not been in an abusive relationship always ask the person to just leave their partners and start a new life. Yet, it is easier said than done. Sometimes, the person being abused is not aware that she is already in an abusive relationship. The first thing to do is to recognize that an abusive relationship really do exist within.

Signs Of An Abusive Relationship

For you to know if you or a person close to you is in an abusive relationship, you may answer these following questions:

•  Are you afraid of your partner most of the time?
•  Are you feeling helpless?
•  Do you refrain from talking about a certain topic in fear that your partner might get mad at you?
•  Do you ever think if you are the one who has the problem?
•  Do you believe that you are being mistreated or punished to justify a mistake that you have made?
•  Do you feel embarrass that your family and friends can see that you are being hurt?
•  Does your partner embarrass or shout at you?
•  Does your partner think of you as a sex object or his own possession and not as a partner?
•  Does your partner control where you go and what you do?
•  Does he criticize you and make you feel worthless?
•  Does he have a bad and impulsive temper?
•  Does he constantly checks on you?
•  Does he limit your right to use the phone, the car or cash?
•  Is he blaming you for his own abusive behavior?
•  Is he hurting you? Threatens to hurt you or even kill you?
•  Is he ignoring your opinions about things which you should have something to say about?
•  Is he threatening to have a custody of your children or perhaps hurt them 
•  Is he forcing you to have sex?
•  Is he saying that he’ll commit suicide if you leave?
•  Is he extremely jealous and possessive of you at the same time?
•  Is he destroying your personal belongings?
•  Is he telling you not to see your family and friends?

If most answers to these questions are a yes, then I am sorry to say that it is indeed an abusive relationship and it needs to end. Not later, not in a week or a few months and not for a year… it has to end, NOW!

Why Do Abused People Still Stay In An Abusive Relationship?

Okay, I get it. It’s hard to leave now that you have pinpoint and confirmed that the relationship is indeed abusive, right? There are several things that keep a person stick and hold on to an abusive relationship even if it is really bad for them. We need to understand these reasons first so that we can encourage ourselves or abused person to just pack and leave.

1. Emotions.

Emotions play an important role as to why people in an abusive relationship choose to stay. There might be love despite the abuse and it is very difficult for them to leave someone they love quite dearly. Fear of leaving because of threats. Embarrassment and low self-esteem may also be factors as to why the person won’t just leave the relationship.

2. Dependent on the abusive partner.

Since the person has limited access to everything, she might think that she cannot survive the world without his partner. She becomes too dependent on the person that even if the relationship is quite abusive, she chooses to stay instead.

3. Pressure.

Admit it or not, people are always pressured. Same like with the abused person, she feels the pressure of the society and the relationship on her shoulder. She might not want to admit to the world that she is being abused because she couldn’t bear to see what their reaction would be.

How To Leave An Abusive Relationship?

So, i am sure you want to know how to get out of an abusive relationship, good! Now that we have confirmed the presence of an abusive relationship as well as have an overview of the reasons as to why a person could not just leave it away, it is the right time for the NOW. Leave NOW. Rest assured that no one will condemn an abused person and the support for the abused is and will always be there.

First, you need to alert your family, friends or anyone about the abusive relationship. This will ensure support and help. A person being abused requires constant support in terms of emotions, financial, social and even spiritual. The support will make her know that she is not alone in this battle and that she still has someone to turn to in times of need.

A person who is abuse may also contact an organization that specializes help for abused women. If an abused person doesn’t have anywhere to go to, she may contact a battered women’s shelter in her area. Most often, these shelters also housed children who are being abused by their parents or anyone.

If the abused needs to sneak away just to leave the partner, she must plan it ahead of time. Make sure that she has everything she needs from important documents such as passports to cash and clothes. She must also have a record and evidence of abuse in case she wants to file a legal battle against the abusive partner.

Most importantly ensure the safety of the abused. The abuser might return for revenge, hence, safety is the number one priority. In reality, there is more to it than simply just leaving. However, leaving is not only a need but also a must in this case. No one will stop the abuse unless the person involve ѕtаnd up fоr hеrѕеlf аnd сhооѕе freedom over that failed and bad relationship. To receive another interesting article directly to your inbox click here. 

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